temporary families 

You can’t choose your family. Just like you can’t choose your significant others and friends families. When we enter a relationship with someone, we often adopt a temporary family. You might call their mom “mom” or consider their brother the one you always wanted but never had. You may get in deep with your temporary family, deciding that this was now your family, forever. And then, that relationship ends, whether naturally or abruptly, and your left not only without that person but also without this beloved family you’ve grown to call your own.

It’s maddening at times to think that because somebody changed their mind about you, your whole life falls apart and you can lose everyone in it. In failed relationships, you agonize over the girl who will soon replace your spot in the family photo during the holidays. There may be comforting condolences at first, but as the days turn to months, you don’t talk to this people anymore. It’s too weird for them, too painful for you, and at the end of the day, blood is thicker than water no matter the circumstance.

I’m curious about other people’s relationships with temporary families. Who has sent a Mother’s Day card to their best friend’s mom ten years ago and still does? When has someone that wasn’t your own blood been there for you more than someone that was? What is the hardest loss someone has experienced due to the end of a relationship?

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Erika Lauren is a Boston born twenty something French girl spending her days as an esthetician, makeup artist, and dog mom, and her nights as a writer. She's a content creator for The Haute Mess, XOJane, and Narrative.ly. Reader discretion advised: She suffers from lalochezia. Email: ErikaLauren9@yahoo.com

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